“If there is to be a panic, let it be organized.”

If any of you are regular readers (are you? if so, heyyyyy!), you’ll have noticed that I try to post here every Wednesday. I have a lot of things I want to say about living with a busted pancreas. But I’m also a (fairly functional) perfectionist and I don’t like to let ideas out into the wild until they’re fully formed, with legs and wings and all of that stuff they need to fly.

Today is one of those days when stress has edged its way into my consciousness, effectively squashing my ability to write anything that I don’t want to throw into a deep dark well. I recently accepted a job offer and now I’m calf-deep in paperwork (it could be worse) and organizing a move to the Spanish capital with that annoying, low level nausea that always accompanies change. My breaks involve drinking coffee (I should stop, I really should) and dancing to Sia songs, half wishing I’d grown up to be Maddie Ziegler. Also, this song?

I DON’T KNOW!

So this post is just to say: I’m really sorry that my brain won’t let me organize anything today. My meter is screaming at me: giiiirlll, pleaaaaseee chill!

If you have any fail-proof stress relievers please do Tweet, comment, or send me a raven.

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Should You Lose Your Mind Over That Dumb Comment? A Handy Flowchart.

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My father is an Irishman and he is full of strange, whimsical sayings that sound incredibly wise either because they are, or because hearing them said in his Southern Irish lilt just makes them sound that way. Surely it’s some combination of the two.

“People love to wonder, don’t they?” is his default response to hearing about gossip. “Well, let them wonder.”

People do love to wonder, mostly about what other people are doing and the myriad of ways in which they are living. It’s an international sport, in fact. The sad part is that wondering is often just comparison (that silly thief of joy) in its early, more innocuous stage. Another thing that people love to do, which often occurs after wondering, is make unwelcome comments. And why not? You can do it anywhere! About anything! You can comment on how Nancy is raising her children, you can comment on the diet that Javi just started, you can comment on the state of Jenny’s new apartment and you can even comment on how your best friend Bob just isn’t living up to his potential—how sad! See? Nothing is off limits! Naturally, then, a chronic illness is fair game. I wish I’d had a handbook as a teenager and even in my early twenties about how to deal with people who say dumb things re: diabetes. Would I have listened to it? Not sure. Handbooks aren’t really my thing but I think in this particular case a bit of reductive how-to may have served me well.

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Como Enfrentarse a “Los Comentarios”

Mi padre es irlandés y tiene un amplio repertorio de sabios refranes. Sonarán así porque lo son o porque escucharlos en su acento irlandés sureño hace que suenen de manera peculiar. Seguramente será una combinación de ambas cosas.

Mi padre dice muchas veces “a la gente le encanta opinar, no?” refiriéndose al cotilleo. “Pues déjales que opinen,” afirma en tono jocoso.

Pues sí, a la gente le encanta opinar, especialmente sobre lo que hacen y como viven los demás. De hecho, es un deporte internacional. Lo que a mí  me resulta un poco triste es que las opiniones radican en una comparación y la comparación, ya sabemos, es el ladrón de la felicidad. Así se podría decir que las opiniones son su forma más innocua. Otra cosa que a la gente le encanta es hacer comentarios desagradables. ¿Y porque no? ¡Se pueden hacer en cualquier lugar, sobre cualquier cosa! Se puede comentar sobre la manera que tiene una madre de criar a sus niños, sobre la dieta que acaba de empezar Javi, sobre el estado o aspecto del piso nuevo de María o incluso sobre el hecho de que tu amigo Bob no esté alcanzado su potencial en la vida—¡qué triste! ¿No ves? No hay nada fuera de juego. Está claro que una enfermedad crónica también es objeto de crítica.

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